If you have a concern about your child’s mental health, reach out to your child’s doctor first and they will make a referral to a mental health professional.
Resources in partnership with On Our Sleeves: The Movement for Children’s Mental Health
Creating A Safe Place to Talk
Before you jump into a conversation with your child about their mental health, it is important that you first create a safe space to talk. A safe space is something that is created over time. Find ways to connect with your child about things that are going on in their lives on a regular basis. Plan activities they enjoy to help them more comfortable, and then find opportunities to ask questions about their lives, friends, school, current events, interests and how they feel about those things. Be sure to model openness by also sharing your own experience when appropriate.
If you sense your child is struggling with their mental or emotional health, find ways to express your concern in a calm, and non-judgmental way. Actively listen while they talk and validate their feelings. Allow the conversation to remain about them. Avoid saying things like: “You are going to be fine” or “I know how you feel.” Refrain from assuming you know how they feel and sharing your opinions. Be the kind of parent your child wants to talk to. Thank them for being open and vulnerable with you and let them know you are here to support them.
If your child is resistant to opening up to you, ask yourself if there are any other adults in their life that they may be more comfortable talking to – mentor, coach, relative, or religious leader. The goal is to provide opportunities for them to share and get support when they need it. Sometimes it’s easier to talk to someone who is not their parent, and that’s okay!
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